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Oct 23rd

The Power of Media

By Courage Network

The Power of Media

Originally posted at Time's Up

By Lyn Twyman

Media is one of the most powerful tools that exists.  When organizations and the government cannot help, media continues to be one of the few resources left for citizens and those victimized.  When there's little money for lawyers and representation, media will always be there to help people fight back and make their voices heard.  We cannot be afraid to use this powerful tool to raise awareness and educate. 

Media enlightens, helps to unravel mysteries and documents history as it unfolds.  Whether we're looking at movies, documentaries, PSA's or the internet, media will always be there to bear public record of our plight, fight and spread our message far and wide when we're unable to break barriers otherwise.  Activists often use media to get the attention of agencies and politicians who will not step in to address an issue until it reaches a tipping point.

This October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month is used as the pivotal time of year for many groups to increase awareness about the issue.  But increased awareness should not come just one time a year.  It has to be an ongoing, collective effort within the entire field.  So I want to challenge all of us to take a new look at the way we utilize media to spread the message of our causes.  If you haven't developed your own media approach, you may want to consider it.  Media can be vlogs, blogs, websites, movies, documentaries, interviews, radio and articles.  You can broadcast or distribute your message locally, regionally, nationally or globally. 

Some of you may think you don't or won't have an audience for your message.  According to the CIA World Factbook, as of July 2009 there was an average of 6.8 billion people living on earth so you are bound to have an audience for your message.  But you don't want to just grab people's attention, you want to get people to really think about your issue by presenting them with a genuine message and offer solutions.

Celebrity Status

Some of you who run organizations may be thinking 'I need a celebrity to back my cause,' but you really don't.  While most people will gravitate towards celebrities, one thing to keep in mind is the moment they get involved in a crime or scandal, support for your cause can dwindle because the public has identified your cause with the celebrity instead of identifying your message and solutions you propose. So this goes back to the point I made previously that you don't just want to grab society's attention, you want to get society to make decisions and act.    Having a celebrity involved in any form of media always helps to draw attention to a cause and it's even more helpful when that famous person continues using their influence in society on a consistent basis for your cause.  Take for example, there is a long list of celebrities that support anti-violence but only a handful consistently goes into the community and do work for domestic violence. 

In addition, celebrities with the wrong message and execution can be just as damaging to a cause.  Take for example the video "Love the Way You Lie" with Eminem and Rihanna and the recent domestic violence PSA with David Arquette and Courteney Cox.   According to comments that were posted throughout the internet, both forms of media sent mixed messages to viewers, leaving some uncomfortable instead of drawing them closer to learn more about the issue.  Eminem and Rihanna’s gig may have portrayed “dual” domestic violence but it was oversexed and over sensationalized.  David Arquette and Courteney Cox used unclean humor that reminded many of sexual victimization and borderline gay jokes.  There's a difference between taking the public on an emotional roller coaster for mere publicity and actually delivering a message to bring transformative and impactful change to society.  You want people to be compelled to openly share your message.

So don't be over shadowed by Hollywood and think you have to be someone glitzed and glamoured in order to be heard.  Your cause DOES NOT need a celebrity but your cause does need YOU.  Real social changers that use media to help further a cause typically are not celebrities.  They start out as everyday people with a mission and a vision.    It's by their good works they are known and not by the money, the hair, the movie lines or Photo shopped pics that gets the job done. 

Audience and Messaging

Know your audience and make sure your message is sincere, genuine and relevant.  This may sound like common sense but what sounds good to you may not sound good to most of the people in your audience.  Try to picture yourself hearing your own message for the first time and objectively consider how it would make you react.  The message should be heartfelt and go beyond talking points.  What information do you have for your audience? How can they relate to the issue?  What do you want them to do about the problem? 

Your messaging should also be clear and consistent.  Avoid reinventing your message too often and execute new media campaigns at appropriate times.  You should be reaching your audience with a defined issue.  Your audience in turn is waiting to see what relevant information you will give them about the issue.  Sometimes the audience doesn't even know they need to hear your message.  People will also sense confusion in your own work when your messaging is not consistent and will start to not take you seriously when your messaging changes too frequently so take time to really study your message.

Beware of Snakes in the Grass

Occasionally, you'll run into activists, organizations and entertainment producers that are nothing more than snakes in the grass.  As much as we'd like to believe everyone in our field of activism has the right motives there are those few who truly do not.   Their goals are disingenuous and motives lead to victimization or the re-victimization of others.  Media influence is powerful; that's why it's a multi-billion dollar industry.  So when you're looking to launch a media campaign, don't use broad statements, hype words or name drop.  Many people make the mistake of putting out false information which can be verified and their creditability becomes questioned because of something they put into their own media.  Remember, just because a person says they are doing something doesn't mean they are really doing it so do your homework and check their statements, even other advocates.  Make sure that what you say you too are also doing so you don't become a snake in the grass yourself and lose your creditability.

I want to challenge all of us in the next year to increase our own media outreach.  Use your Youtube, Facebook, Twitter, website, blogs and tag your posts.  Reach out to your local newspapers, magazines, radio and t.v.  Don't wait for a celebrity, organization or the government; do it yourself. 

So tap into your list of contacts and see who can help you to get the word out and spread it.  If we keep speaking up and loud enough with the right message, the voices of mere individuals talking at once becomes a massive crowd of activists making a sound that cannot be ignored, becoming unified.  Most of all, survivors and families will get the help they need and deserve because people will begin to listen and act.

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May 27th

Family Violence Prevention Fund's Speaking Up May 13, 2010 Vol. 16, Issue 5

By Courage Network
Speaking Up

May 13, 2010 Vol. 16, Issue 5

Speaking Up is a project of the Family Violence Prevention Fund. Produced by PR Solutions, Inc., Washington, DC. Phone: 202/371 1999; Fax: 202/371 9142; E-mail: speakingup@prsolutionsdc.com.

CONGRESS CONSIDERS VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

In recent weeks, two congressional committee hearings have examined the causes and consequences of violence against women in the United States and around the world. On May 5, Office on Violence Against Women (OVW) Director Judge Susan Carbon and other experts testified before the Senate Judiciary Committee about the importance of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) during the economic downturn. A few weeks before that, on April 15, Representatives Bill Delahunt (D-MA) and Ted Poe (R-TX) testified before the Tom Lantos Human Rights Commission, urging the U.S. to take action to end violence against women and girls around the world by passing the International Violence Against Women Act (I-VAWA).
The Increased Importance of the VAWA in a Time of Economic Crisis
At the hearing on VAWA, Committee Chair Patrick Leahy (D-VT) praised the law, but cautioned that there is more work to be done: “The importance of VAWA could not be clearer than it is today as our country copes with a troubled economy. The safety net VAWA has provided survivors over the years is now a lifeline for many. The economic pressures of a lost job, home, or car can add stress to an already abusive relationship. The loss of these resources can make it harder for victims to escape a violent situation. And just as victims’ needs are growing, state budget cuts are resulting in fewer available services, including emergency shelters, transitional housing, counseling, and child care.”
Judge Carbon commended the Obama Administration for funneling stimulus funds to programs that serve victims of domestic, sexual and dating violence and stalking because these funds fill “critical gaps in services.” But she also cautioned that there is still great unmet need for services and supports. “As we think about reauthorization of VAWA, we must fully incorporate prevention as an essential strategy to ending violence against women,” she testified.
Other witnesses included Auburn L. Watersong of the Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence; Lolita Ulloa with the Hennepin County Attorney's Office in Minneapolis; and Richard Gelles, Dean of the School of Social Policy & Practice at the University of Pennsylvania.
Watersong focused on the importance of economic sustainability for victims of violence. “Many VAWA programs contribute to the overall economic sustainability of victims and play a crucial part in victims’ long-term safety and self-sufficiency,” she said.
Ulloa focused on ways that VAWA has benefited victims of violence in the legal system. “When Congress passed VAWA, there was finally federal recognition that crimes of domestic violence, sexual assault and stalking would not be tolerated any longer,” she testified. “As a result, there has been a shift in how violence against women is addressed in the criminal justice offices, and also in how it is viewed in the community. Funding criminal justice offices remains, I believe, a critical need – especially when criminal justice offices forge partnerships with community battered women’s programs and social services.”
Gelles testified that VAWA is “likely to have played a role” in decreasing the rates of domestic violence. The most recent federal data available, which predates the economic downturn, show that rates of domestic violence have decreased by about half since 1993, he said. That mirrors the overall drop in violent crime during the same time period. Gelles recommended that Congress make “funding more effective” when reauthorizing VAWA.
Senators Al Franken (D-MN), Orrin Hatch (R-UT), Amy Klobuchar (D-MN) and Jeff Sessions (R-AL) also questioned witnesses on issues ranging from the backlog of rape kits, to the needs of victims of violence who live in rural communities, to the programs that work best in ensuring that victims are able to get legal assistance.
To watch a webcast or read testimony from the “The Increased Importance of the Violence Against Women Act in a Time of Economic Crisis” hearing, click here.
Violence Against Women: Strategies and Responses
At the April hearing, Representatives Delahunt and Poe testified that violence against women is a serious human rights violation. Around the world, women and girls are systematically targeted in armed conflicts, communal violence and cultural practices, in the workplace and at home.
Representative Delahunt made a powerful case that the United States has made progress in decreasing rates of violence at home, and should build on that success with I-VAWA. “There is no reason this can’t be replicated internationally,” he said. “The time to act is now.”
Representative Poe answered critics who question allocating funds for international work, when domestic budgets are stretched thin. “Despite the fiscal concerns, the United States should be at the forefront of the fight for human rights, because human rights is our business,” he said. “The international crime of violence against women should end and the U.S. should be the leader.”
Ambassador Stephen Rapp of the Office of War Crimes Issues; Dr. Lydia Mungherera, founder of Mama’s Club in Uganda; Humaira Shahid of Pakistan, former member of the Punjab Provincial Assembly; Retired Major General Patrick Cammaert, former United Nations Force Commander; and Gary Barker, Ph.D., Director of Gender, Violence and Rights at the International Center for Research on Women (ICRW) also testified.
Ambassador Rapp discussed the horrors that women living in combat areas experience. He called violence against women, “the major if not dominant tactic of war” and said that “in some parts of the world it is more dangerous to be a woman than an armed combatant.” Retired Major General Patrick Cammaert echoed this and focused his testimony on the role of sexual violence in conflict. He called sexual violence a “security issue” because it tears apart families, undermines stability and prolongs conflict when women aren’t a part of the peace process and perpetrators aren’t punished.
Dr. Lydia Mungherera addressed the intersection of violence against women and girls and HIV/AIDS. Women who are in violent relationships are unable to negotiate safe sex practices and can be prevented from seeking health services, she said, commending I-VAWA’s comprehensive approach to addressing violence in HIV/AIDS prevention. “Women and girls cannot wait another year or another political cycle…I-VAWA must be passed,” she added.
Gary Barker with ICRW emphasized the role of men and boys in addressing violence against women: “We are finding men who don’t believe in violence” and evidence of programs that work. He said I-VAWA would build on effective programs and cited the Family Violence Prevention Fund and ICRW’s work to change attitudes and culture norms in India through cricket. Learn more about the Parivartan and Coaching Boys into Men here.
In addition to Co-Chair James P. McGovern (D-MA), Representatives Anh “Joseph” Cao (R-LA), Donna Edwards (D-MD), Janice Schakowsky (D-IL) and Christopher Smith (R-NJ) attended the hearing.
The United Nations Development Fund for Women estimates that one of every three women globally will be beaten, raped, or otherwise abused during her lifetime. A 2005 World Health Organization study found that of 15 sites in ten countries – representing diverse cultural settings – the proportion of ever-partnered women who had experienced physical or sexual intimate partner violence in their lifetime ranged from 15 percent in Japan to 71 percent in Ethiopia.
As of today, I-VAWA has 95 co-sponsors in the House of Representatives and 29 in the Senate. Click here to send a message to your Senator or Representative and encourage him/her to co-sponsor I-VAWA.
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IN THEIR OWN WORDS AT THE RECENT HEARINGS
“In some countries women are met with violence simply because they want to go to school, work to support their families or marry a man of their choosing. This must change.”
---U.S. Representative and Co-Chair of the Tom Lantos Human Rights Commission James McGovern (D-MA), “Violence Against Women Strategies and Responses,” April 15, 2010
“It is socially unacceptable and criminally responsible to treat women and girls like property.”
---U.S. Representative Ted Poe (R-TX), “Violence Against Women Strategies and Responses,” April 15, 2010
“I hope our colleagues will join us in supporting the International Violence Against Women Act. This isn’t a partisan issue, or a women’s issue. It is a human rights issue.”
---U.S. Representative Bill Delahunt (D-MA), “Violence Against Women Strategies and Responses,” April 15, 2010
“Violence against women is a destabilizing factor around the world and this violence impacts us.”
---U.S. Representative Jan Schakowsky (D-IL), “Violence Against Women Strategies and Responses,” April 15, 2010
“When women are able to live a life without violence, they can build strong communities and families.”
---U.S. Representative Donna Edwards (D-MD), “Violence Against Women Strategies and Responses,” April 15, 2010
“While I fully recognize that tough decisions need to be made about spending federal dollars in the current economic climate, federal investment in protecting women and children from domestic violence is especially necessary at times like this. It is no secret that domestic violence becomes more pervasive in times of economic distress.”
---U.S. Senator Russ Feingold (D-WI) in a statement, “The Increased Importance of the Violence Against Women Act in a Time of Economic Crisis,” May 5, 2010
“I am really pleased to work with my colleagues to get VAWA [Violence Against Women Act] reauthorized. Although an economic crisis does not cause domestic violence…I have concerns that the current economic downturn affects violence.”
---U.S. Senator Orrin Hatch (R-UT), “The Increased Importance of the Violence Against Women Act in a Time of Economic Crisis,” May 5, 2010
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OUTREACH – TIME TO ACT ON JJDPA
Now that Congress has passed health care reform, it’s time to urge Members to turn their attention to other crucial issues that affect our health and safety, including the Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention Act (JJDPA). It’s time for violence prevention advocates to speak out and tell Congress to make juvenile justice reform a priority this year and help youth who have been exposed to violence!
The JJDPA was first enacted in 1974. It provides federal funding to states that comply with a set of best practices aimed at avoiding the detention and incarceration of young people in juvenile and adult facilities. However, this law is three years overdue for reauthorization! The Senate Judiciary Committee has approved a JJDPA reauthorization bill (S. 678) but the full Senate has yet to act. The House of Representatives Education & Labor Committee has held hearings, but they have not yet moved reauthorization legislation.
This reauthorization marks an important opportunity to more adequately address the needs of young women who have experienced violence and trauma. Nationally, studies show that a history of sexual victimization and physical abuse is one of the most commonly shared attributes of girls in the juvenile justice system. According to The Brookings Institute, 92 percent of incarcerated young women are victims of abuse. In fact, often a young woman’s contact with the criminal justice system is a result of behaviors she adapted to overcome poverty, racism and abuse. For the first time ever, the this reauthorization could mean that JJDPA addresses the specific needs of girls who have been exposed to domestic and dating violence, sexual assault and stalking.
If you agree that it we should develop gender-specific services that include prevention, intervention, education and awareness-raising about domestic and dating violence and sexual assault for young women in the juvenile justice system, and develop effective juvenile justice programs such as alternatives to detention and incarceration, contact your Representative now and urge him/her to introduce and move a bill in the House this year!
Here’s how you can help:
• Meet: Ask for a meeting with your representatives in the House and Senate to discuss the JJDPA;
• Write a Letter: If you are not able to get a meeting scheduled, send a letter to your Members of Congress to support JJDPA reauthorization. Sample materials can be found here;
• Join: Join the Act 4 Juvenile Justice campaign Fan page on Facebook here;
• Share: Spread the word with your friends and share this Action Alert!
For additional information including sample letters, click here.
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OHIO TEEN WINS NATIONAL THAT’S NOT COOL CONTEST
Lara Beck, a junior at Washington High School in Massillon, Ohio, has been named the winner of a national contest to design a new “Callout Card” – a brief, creative message in “teen speak” that raises awareness about preventing digital dating abuse. The contest is part of the That’s Not Cool campaign, a national public service awareness effort designed to help teens recognize digital dating abuse and take steps to prevent it. The contest was sponsored by the Family Violence Prevention Fund (FVPF) and the National Football League Players Association (NFLPA). As the Grand Prize winner, Lara attended and walked the red carpet at the NFL PLAYERS Gala in Washington, D.C., which honors players for their commitment to team, family and community, in April.
The FVPF, Advertising Council and R/GA launched That’s Not Cool last year. Each month the campaign generates nearly 70,000 website visitors, and thousands of those teens send That’s Not Cool Callout Cards (e-cards with a brief message like the one Lara created) to their friends and dating partners.
“I’m so excited that I won this contest and that I get to go to the NFL PLAYERS Gala,” 16-year-old Beck said. “Dating violence is a serious issue and I designed a Callout Card to convey, in a straightforward way, that teens who are in bad or dangerous relationships should get help and get out.”
Digital communication is central to teens’ lives and relationships. With these new technologies come the risk of digital dating abuse, which includes unwanted, repeated calls or text messages; hacking into e-mail; spying on social networking accounts; or being pressured to send private or embarrassing pictures or videos.
“Our That’s Not Cool campaign has reached thousands and thousands of teens like Lara, all across the country, helping them recognize that controlling behavior can cross the line and become abuse,” said FVPF President Esta Soler. “We are delighted with Lara’s powerful and creative entry, and so proud that she is representing the campaign at the NFL PLAYERS Gala. Her Callout Card will help start conversations about textual harassment and digital abuse, give teens the tools to recognize and talk about it, and encourage them to define what is and isn’t okay.”
“Our organization and the players we serve understand the importance of education and prevention as it relates to dating violence,” said Teri Patterson, NFLPA Special Counsel to the Executive Director.
The four runners-up, Liz Burton from Melrose, MA, Andrea Hovetter from Carlisle, PA, Madeline Rauch from Lexington, SC and Thadeus Bradley from Whitesburg, GA each received autographed NFL memorabilia. Honorable mention winners received That’s Not Cool t-shirts and NFLPA hats. Teens age 13 to 18 were eligible to enter the contest. The FVPF received entries from teens all around the country.
According to Technology and Teen Dating Abuse Survey, 2007 (conducted by Teen Research Unlimited and Liz Claiborne), one in three teens say they have been text messaged 10, 20 or 30 times an hour by a partner wanting to know where they are, what they’re doing, or who they’re with. One in four teens in a relationship have been called disparaging names, harassed or put down by a partner through cell phones and texting. More than half of teen girls (51 percent) say pressure from a guy is a reason girls send sexy messages or images, and 18 percent of teen boys say pressure from a girl is a reason (Sex and Tech Survey, conducted by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 2008).
That’s Not Cool includes an interactive website at www.ThatsNotCool.com, mobile phone component, television, radio, posters in schools and malls, and online ads all designed to help youth recognize digital dating abuse and give them tools to avoid it. On the site teens can find resources to “draw their own digital line” and a forum to discuss this form of abuse and seek help. That’s Not Cool is supported by the U.S. Department of Justice’s Office on Violence against Women.
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HUMAN RIGHTS LEADER PASSES
Rhonda Copelon, a human rights attorney and City University of New York (CUNY) School of Law professor who helped convince United States federal courts and key international tribunals to recognize gender-based violence and international human rights violations as illegal forms of torture, has died of ovarian cancer.
During her 40-year career, Copelon worked on a range of legal cases involving gender-based violence, racial discrimination, government wiretapping, employment discrimination, and women’s reproductive rights.
“Rhonda Copelon was a passionate and powerful legal advocate for victims of gender-based violence in the United States and around the world,” said Family Violence Prevention Fund President Esta Soler. “She dedicated her life to helping women who suffered human rights violations. It would be impossible to overstate her impact on how courts deal with these atrocious crimes. She was an inspiration to so many of us. We feel this loss deeply and pledge to continue Rhonda’s tireless work.”
Copelon co-founded the CUNY Law School’s International Women’s Human Rights Clinic (IWHR). Under her leadership, the clinic enabled students and activists to participate in a range of precedent-setting legal and advocacy campaigns. Working with these students, she filed briefs before the International Criminal Tribunals for Rwanda and the former Yugoslavia that contributed to recognition in international law that rape is a crime of genocide and torture. Copelon told The New York Times in 2002 that, until then, “rape was considered a kind of collateral damage” and “seen as part of the unpreventable, fundamental culture of war.”
IWHR’s work with the United Nation’s Committee against Torture and other international bodies contributed to worldwide recognition that gender crimes, including domestic and other forms of violence, can constitute torture under the United Nation’s Convention against Torture and Other Cruel, Inhuman, or Degrading Treatment or Punishment.
Copelon was born in New Haven, Connecticut in 1944. She graduated from Bryn Mawr with a degree in history and political science, and received her law degree from Yale.
For more information on Rhonda Copelon’s life and legacy, click here.
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FURTHER EVIDENCE OF LINK BETWEEN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & REPRODUCTIVE COERCION/CONTROL
Reproductive control – when a partner imposes his reproductive intentions through intimidation, threats or actual violence – is a common problem for women who experience intimate partner violence, according to a new study released by the Guttmacher Institute on April 6.
Three in four respondents (74 percent) in the new study – of 71 domestic violence victims seeking services at a family planning clinic, an abortion clinic and a domestic violence shelter – reported that their partners had threatened to get them pregnant, forced them to have unprotected sex, sabotaged or interfered with their contraception, threatened them with sexual intercourse, tried to control the outcome of their pregnancies if they became pregnant, or in other ways tried to coerce their reproductive outcomes. These abusive behaviors can lead to unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and a host of other problems.
“This study adds to the growing body of evidence that partner violence often includes reproductive coercion and control, which can lead to unplanned pregnancy,” said Family Violence Prevention Fund President Esta Soler. “We make a mistake by putting these issues in silos and promoting solutions that ignore the connection. If we are serious about stopping unplanned pregnancy in this country, we simply must address the sexual violence and reproductive control that often cause it. If we are serious about stopping dating and domestic violence, we must recognize that many victims grapple daily with sexual violence and reproductive coercion. And if we are serious about improving women’s health, we must address the violence that too many young women experience.”
The authors of “Male Reproductive Control of Women Who Have Experienced Intimate Partner Violence in the United States,” conducted in-depth interviews with 71 women aged 18–49 who had a history of intimate partner violence; they were recruited in 2007 from a domestic violence shelter, a freestanding abortion clinic and a family planning clinic providing a full range of reproductive health services.
“We believe that reproductive control is, itself, a form of intimate partner violence, and one worthy of public health attention,” said Ann Moore, senior research associate at the Guttmacher Institute and one of the study’s authors. The study recommends that providers assess their patients in order to identify women who may need to hide their contraceptives from their partner, conduct prenatal care and abortion counseling in private, and ask questions designed to ascertain if anyone is pressuring the woman either to terminate or continue the pregnancy.
The FVPF’s ‘Know More, Say More’ initiative, which examines the consequences of reproductive coercion and violence, is online at www.KnowMoreSayMore.org. For tools on how to assess and respond to violence and coercion, click here.
“Male Reproductive Control of Women Who Have Experienced Intimate Partner Violence in the United States” is available online. It will be published in a forthcoming issue of Social Science & Medicine.
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ROUND-UP OF NEW STATE LAWS
State legislatures around the country are wrapping up legislative sessions and sending bills to governors to be signed. This year states have passed many bills address dating, domestic and sexual violence. The following are some of the new laws.
Colorado
Governor Bill Ritter signed Senate Bill 80 on April 12. The new law fills a gap between civil and criminal law to include family pets under Colorado’s protection orders. Representative Jerry Frangas, one of the new law’s chief sponsors, said “By legally protecting animals, we decrease the use of a common manipulative tactic used by domestic violence abusers in the coercion of his/her partner. For many of us, pets are part of our families, and clarifying the law to protect them makes sense and is the right thing to do.”

Indiana
On April 12, Governor Mitch Daniels hosted a ceremonial signing of “Heather’s Law,” which requires the Indiana Department of Education to develop teen dating violence educational materials and model dating violence response and reporting policies. “Heather’s Law” is named after Heather Norris, who was killed by her estranged high school boyfriend in 2007. After Heather’s death, her mother, Debbie Norris, created a website www.heathersvoice.net and began advocating for Indiana to adopt a dating violence law.
Iowa
Governor Chet Culver signed legislation on March 22 that will help protect Iowa families by taking guns out of the hands of abusers. Senate File 2357 prohibits a person who has been convicted of a domestic abuse crime, or is subject to a permanent civil protection order, from possessing firearms or other offensive weapons. “It is our duty to do whatever we can to keep Iowa families safe, and this common-sense legislation provides an important tool to do so,” Governor Culver said. “I am proud to sign this bill in the name of all who have suffered at the hands of domestic abusers, and in the memory of all who have sadly lost their lives.”
Kentucky
On April 14, the Kentucky General Assembly and Senate passed “Amanda’s Bill” a measure that would allow authorities to attach GPS monitors to suspected abusers who have violated domestic violence orders. The bill is named after Amanda Ross, who was murdered outside her home last year; former State Representative Steve Nunn has been arrested and charged in her killing. Governor Steve Beshear called for lawmakers to pass the measure in his State of the Commonwealth address in January and signed the legislation on April 28.
New Hampshire
Governor John Lynch signed legislation making attempted strangulation a felony on May 4. The bill (HB 1634) quickly moved through the state legislature after the story of Melissa Cantin Charbonneau made headlines last November. Cantin Charbonneau was shot to death by her husband two days after he was arrested for choking her and released on $30 bail, the Manchester Union Leader reports. The new law will make strangulation a second-degree assault, which is a felony that can carry prison time. It takes effect on January 1.
New York
In April, Governor David Paterson signed a law allowing victims of domestic violence to cast special ballots in an election if they leave their residence because of domestic violence. Earlier this month, Governor Paterson signed a law that authorizes courts to order that voter registration records of victims of domestic violence be kept confidential in certain cases.
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IN THE NEWS
NATIONAL – The United States will have its human rights record judged by the United Nations Human Rights Council this fall. “Human rights are universal, but their experience is local. That is why we are committed to holding everyone to the same standard, including ourselves,” Secretary of State Hillary Clinton told the Washington Post. Some argue that the commission has been overrun by human rights violators like China, Cuba and Egypt and the United States should not participate, but the Obama Administration counters that the U.S. will be in a stronger position to critique human rights violators if we complete the “universal periodic review” process. Each of the 192 United Nations member countries is supposed to go through the review process every four years.
AK – Governor Sean Parnell is heading up a new campaign that calls on Alaskans not to stand by when they see or suspect domestic violence, and to make it a social norm that it is everyone’s business to report and stop such acts. The new “Choose Respect” campaign is in response to Alaska’s high rates of domestic and sexual assault. “Our violence and assault stats will plunge when Alaska men in every corner and every culture in the state think about what it means to truly be a man,” the Anchorage Daily News editorialized.
DC – On Mother’s Day, mothers from across the United States and advocates for abused children gathered in front of the White House for a silent vigil to draw attention to the fact that family courts ordered them to give full custody or unsupervised visitation to their abusers. “We decided that Mother’s Day was the perfect time to stand vigil in front of the White House with mothers from all over America whose children are either dead or living in harm’s way because of the broken family court system,” said Connie Valentine, vigil organizer and co-founder of the California Protective Parent’s Association.

DC – American University’s student newspaper is apologizing for publishing a March 30 column that called date rape an “incoherent concept” and said that any woman who attends a fraternity party, has five drinks and goes back to a man’s room is “indicating she wants sex” and should not “cry ‘date rape.’” Students were outraged after sophomore Alex Knepper published the column. A day after it was published, Knepper told the Washington Post that he enjoyed “stirring the pot” and doesn’t “mind being hated for his views.” In response to students’ protests, The Eagle’s editors are organizing a forum on the issue. They also announced that Knepper will be required to follow a stricter set of guidelines to ensure that his arguments are coherent and reasonable.
FL – Two judges in Sarasota County have created a controversial new policy that requires domestic violence victims to contact police before they grant them a restraining order, reports the Sarasota Herald Tribune. The victims also would be ordered to pursue criminal prosecution as a part of the civil court process. Violence prevention advocates fear that this requirement could discourage victims from seeking protective orders. Circuit Judges Robert McDonald and Andrew Owens countered that they’ve ordered dozens of petitioners to report their allegations to law enforcement, but haven’t imposed any sanctions on victims unwilling to do so.
IL – The man charged with spying on ESPN reporter Erin Andrews was sentenced to two-and-a-half years in prison last month. At the sentencing Andrews said, “You violated me and you violated all women… you are a sexual predator, a sexual deviant and they should lock you up.” Michael David Barrett pled guilty last December to interstate stalking after prosecutors accused him of following Andrews to at least three cities and filming her through hotel peepholes. The footage is still posted on the Internet.
KY – As part of the American Recovery and Reinvestment Act, the Louisville Metro Criminal Justice Commission has been awarded $170,000 to develop a system to issue emergency protection orders electronically. In the current system, protection orders must be physically delivered to judges for approval, returned to the domestic-violence intake center, and then a sheriff’s deputy has to pick them up and serve them. The process can take a few days. The new system will allow the orders to be processed in a matter of hours and served the same day, the Courier-Journal reports. The program is expected to start in February 2011.
MD – A Baltimore County judge was suspended from hearing cases last month after he presided over the marriage of an alleged domestic assault victim and her accused attacker. Frederick Wood was charged with assaulting his fiancée in November. The assault case came to trial on March 10 and District Judge G. Darrell Russell Jr. allowed Wood a recess to obtain a marriage license. Another judge who had no knowledge of the charges against Wood waived the 48-hour waiting period for the marriage. When Wood returned to the courtroom, Judge Russell married him. Wood’s new wife invoked marital privilege so she would not be forced to testify against her new husband. Wood was then found not guilty. The House of Ruth Maryland and the Women’s Law Center of Maryland have filed a complaint with a state panel that disciplines judges, the Baltimore Sun reports.
MN – The St. Paul Pioneer Press reported earlier this month that the police department has launched the “St. Paul Blueprint for Safety” – a new approach so that all parts of the criminal justice system will work together on domestic violence crimes. The “Blueprint” calls for everyone involved, from the 911 operator to judges, to assess for signs of danger. Patrol officers are being trained to ask three key questions: Do you think he/she will seriously injure you or your children? When were you hurt or most afraid? And how frequent is the violence and is the frequency changing? The Minnesota legislature appropriated half a million dollars in 2007 to St. Paul to write a comprehensive plan and a more general guide that other cities could customize.
OH – Last month, Cuyahoga Juvenile Court Judge Alison Floyd ordered teenage rape victims to take polygraph tests even after finding their accusers delinquent, which is the juvenile court equivalent of guilty. Cleveland Plain Dealer columnist Regina Brett called the case “unbelievable,” and wrote “The federal Violence Against Women Act of 2005 prohibits forcing a rape victim to take a lie detector test.” Judge Floyd has not commented on the case or her motives for ordering the polygraph are unclear.
MALAYSIA – Kartika Sari Dewi Shukarno was sentenced last July to caning after being caught drinking beer at a beach restaurant by the morality police. In April, the state’s sultan commuted her sentence to three weeks of community service, the Associated Press reports. Human rights activists had been protesting her punishment, and many in Malaysia say that Islamic laws should not intrude in personal matters in the country, which is known as a moderate and progressive Islamic society.
YEMEN – In late March, hundreds of women protested in support of a bill to ban the marriage of girls under age 17. Some of the country’s most influential Islamic leaders oppose the legislation and it is putting the government’s ruling party in a delicate position, the Christian Science Monitor reports. The government fears being branded “un-Islamic” or “full of infidels.” Child marriage is widespread in Yemen, especially in rural areas. A decision is expected this month.
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SAVE THE DATE
May 24-26, 2010, Richland, WA
Hand in Hand through a Lifetime
The Washington Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs annual conference will be held at the Red Lion Hotel Richland Hanford House. Olga Trujillo is the featured keynote speaker. A pre-conference institute (on May 24) addressing issues involving children with sexual behavior problems will be offered. For more information, contact Grant Stancliff at grant@wcsap.org or 360-754-7583 or visit the website.
July 21-23, 2010, Washington, DC
From Theory to Practice
Men Can Stop Rape’s most comprehensive Strength Training – From Theory to Practice – has provided more than 9,000 professionals with the skills to engage men in the prevention of dating violence and sexual assault. Learn how to build individual, organizational and community capacity for prevention of violence against women and how to approach primary violence prevention from a public health perspective at this event. Men Can Stop Rape’s approach is based on the social ecological model, advocated by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. For more information and to register, click here.
August 1-4, 2010, Anaheim, CA
Changing Faces of the Movement
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence is holding its 14th National Conference on Domestic Violence: Changing Faces of the Movement at the Hilton Anaheim. Advocates are encouraged to join hundreds of domestic violence survivors and other allies for critical discussions, networking and vital information aimed at providing services and support for victims of domestic violence. The discounted registration rate has been extended until May 25. For more information about attending the conference or presenting a workshop, click here.
September 1-3, 2010, Los Angeles, CA
2010 National Sexual Assault Conference
The California Coalition Against Sexual Assault (CALCASA) is hosting the 2010 National Sexual Assault Conference in Los Angeles. CALCASA is asking participants at this educational conference to imagine the world in which they want to live – a world free of sexual violence. CALCASA will create space for attendees to share public service announcements (PSAs), and will show PSAs developed by agencies and organizations across the country. For more information about submitting your organization’s PSA, click here. For more information about the conference, click here.
October 14-16, 2010, Tacoma, WA
Paving a Rocky Road: Removing Barriers to Men’s Engagement
Pacific Lutheran University Men Against Violence will host a national conference to engage professionals, religious communities and student activists in the process of identifying and strategizing how to remove the barriers that have traditionally kept large numbers of men from joining violence prevention efforts. Experts will discuss innovative approaches to anti-violence work and how to empower men to explore masculinities which support a just and equitable society. For more information or to submit a workshop proposal, contact Jonathan Grove at grovejk@plu.edu.
Does your organization sponsor a conference that you would like to highlight in Speaking Up?
If so, please let us know about it! Send conference information to Speaking Upeditor Luci Manning via email: speakingup@prsolutionsdc.com, or via fax: 202/371-9142. Be sure to include the registration deadline!
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Apr 6th

Domestic Violence and Immigration

By Courage Network
Originally published by the National Domestic Violence Hotline Share Your Voice blog

By Lyn Twyman

Domestic Violence and Immigration
 
I was 5 years old when I heard one of my parents frequent arguments end with a loud smacking sound.  I had just walked in the front door after the school bus had dropped me off in front of my house from a day at kindergarten to the loud yelling and arguing of my parents, unfortunately something I had grown accustomed to.  If you can imagine my father was well over 6 feet with a loud bellowing voice, my mother just under 5 feet.  With frustration and anger my father struck my mother, leaving a bright red hand mark on the left side of her fair, Asian face.  This was the first time I saw the expression of resentment and hate in my mother’s face for everything that led to that point.  That act of violence shattered the facade that my parents had built up to try to hide the truth from me, that their marriage was a sham and in no way functional.  There were deeply rooted problems within their relationship and after that moment my eyes were wide open to them.  Later I would realize there were great amounts of psychological and emotional abuse in my parent’s relationship that would be directed solely towards me.
 
My father was an American born in the south, a victim of abuse and neglect by an alcoholic father who was void of most emotion, except anger and depression spurred by the bottle.  My mother, the eldest of her siblings, grew up in third-world poverty with an extremely controlling mother.  In 1977, my mother started receiving pen pal letters from my father.  She became enamored with the idea of a man she had never met before, a man who promised to take care of her and give her a better life, more than what she could have ever imagined.  About a year later when my mother was 23, she immigrated to the United States.
 
The man who wrote such beautiful words on paper was not reflective of the man my mother met when she came to the U.S. and in less than a month, the fairy tale was over. The stark realities of the deception, lack of respect and obsession over my mother’s every movement was too much to endure. My mother however, was fearful to leave my father with the domestic violence taking place.  My father, a man ridden with personality disorders, would admit years later that his choice to marry my mother was due to the amount of “submissiveness” women like her had for their husbands and the ability to “teach” them and make them become what he wanted.
 
Unfortunately the story of my parents is not unique. It bares many similarities to the stories of many immigrants who find themselves in relationships where domestic violence is present.  One thing that remains consistent however, as with many instances of domestic violence,  is there is one person that seeks to have control over the other who is thought to be weaker.
 
Women and men have shared with me their personal experiences, and those of other immigrants who were involved in domestic violence relationships that they knew.  I began hearing similarities in the stories:
 
• Victims had little interaction with people other than their partner or lived in complete isolation.
• Victims were eventually embarrassed by their partner regarding their own language and culture.
• Communication decreased over time with their families in their homeland.
• Finances were controlled by the abusive partner.
• The partner threatened to have them deported or have their children taken away from them if they showed signs of fighting back or escaping.
 
So many of these stories also began sounding familiar as I realized my mother had faced the same problems with my own father.
 
Help for Immigrants
 
Immigrants who are dealing with domestic violence face many challenges unlike those around them because of language and culture barriers.  Whether waiting for citizenship or seeking refugee status, immigrant victims of domestic violence do have rights and can get help to protect themselves from abuse.  There are organizations like American Immigration Lawyers Association, The National Immigration ProjectThe Tahirih Justice CenterWomensLaw.org and specialty organizations like The Asian Pacific American Legal Resource Center,  that help with direct services or referrals at little or no cost.   It is important that immigrant victims get trained advocates to support and assist them in the proper steps to make themselves and their children safer, whether the abuse is physical or not.  Another good online resource is the following link:  http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/immigration.shtml that talks more in depth about the issue and addresses aspects of the immigration process.  Also the spouses and children of U.S. citizens can self-petition to obtain lawful permanent residency under the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).  VAWA also allows certain battered immigrants  to seek safety and independence from the abuser by filing for immigration relief without the abuser’s assistance or knowledge .  
 
Domestic violence is wrong, period.  A person’s nationality does not exclude them from the physical and emotional pain that is inflicted from domestic violence.  The best thing we can do as advocates is to remember the warning signs of abuse, stay informed about the issue,  spread awareness and encourage our Federal immigration system to strengthen laws and distribute violence and abuse awareness materials, making them available in multiple languages to each person that comes to their offices and websites. 
 
I am encouraged about the amount of work that has been done with this issue compared to my mother’s time as an immigrant but there is still much work to be done in raising awareness about the problem.  If you see someone who displays signs of being a victim, offer them in confidence the resources they can go to for help.  You will be surprised how far a bit of information and slice of humanity can go to help save a life and lead someone to new found freedom, hope and truly a much better life.
Apr 6th

Why Advocacy is So Important - Why You Don't Have to Be A Victim to Help

By Courage Network
By Lyn Twyman

Out of the many emails I receive, there are some that really stick out in my mind.  One in particular came from a lady I'll call Briana who wasn't a victim of domestic violence, but she had been affected by it.   Briana wrote that she had sat on a jury for about 6 weeks for a case where a young woman, aged 29, was brutally beaten to death, hog tied and tortured by her so called soul mate. "I looked into the eyes of her killer," wrote Briana, " The trial has been over for one week and one day.  I too am a young woman, and that statistics regarding domestic violence are alarming to me.  As I watched this trial unfold, I couldn't help but think about all the young women out there, young girls who will be abused.  Now, I pass women/girls even while grocery shopping and I count them in my mind (I'm number 1.....then 2...then 3....then 4) and I know statistically, one of us will be a victim of domestic violence at some point in our lives.  While all these victims may not die as Jane did.....they all will suffer.  Jane was not new to abuse....she had experienced it in other relationships.  For some reason she believed she was not worth more.  For some reason, she thought abuse meant love." 
 
Briana goes on to write, "I want to do something.  I donated my jury pay to our local non profit organization for sexual/domestic violence.  I'm attending our local "Take Back the Night" march and marching in memory of Jane.  But it's not enough.  I need to reach people....and it seems like all the organizations I have found are predominantly for survivors or current victims and none really focus on reaching out to young women to help PREVENT it.  And that's where I found your website......and thought that perhaps you could offer me some suggestions......some encouragement.....something I can do to help."

Can you imagine, after reading an email like this, it not only touches you, not only inspires you, it IGNITES you  about the work you are doing, about the cause you are fighting.  It makes you realize that people other than victims and survivors really do care about this issue of domestic violence.  People really do want to see change.  The other part of this email that grabbed me was when Briana wrote, "...something I can do to help."

If we are to prevent domestic violence, we have to do something.  It's no good to just talk about; it's no good to just write about it.   You have to really be making efforts to raise awareness to protect those who could be affected or working  to change existing laws and programs in order to better serve victims. 

I am pleased to say that since this initial email, Briana is actively working in her community with others in a domestic violence prevention program.  Within about a week's time of writing this email, she had gotten involved.  Briana not only talked about doing something, she found something she could to do help prevent domestic violence in her local community.

So Briana, Thank You! And thank you to those who have chosen to share the burden  in the good fight even if you are not survivors.  We need you! Because to be an advocate doesn't mean you have to be a survivor, just someone with a heart to help, change lives and make a true difference. 
Mar 26th

Resources for Staying Informed About Domestic Violence Legislation and Human Rights

By Courage Network

We need to stay informed about proposed laws and what's happening around us with domestic violence, abuse and human rights if we are to know how to help ourselves, our loved ones and protect our families.  If you want to stay informed about the latest legislative alerts and updates effecting domestic violence in the United States, go to the Family Violence Prevention Fund website by clicking here or copying and pasting this url:  http://capwiz.com/fvpf/issues/ .  Templates have already been designed by FVPF that can be emailed after filling in your information.  The letter will be emailed directly to your representative after you click on the send message button.  If you choose to mail the letter, the site will provide you mailing details based on your location. 

 

The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) also watches the face of domestic violence and abuse policies.  Visit their Public Policy page also contains the following:  Policy Issues, Understanding the Legislative Process, Take Action and Action Alerts.

 

To stay connected with the latest in human rights around the world visit Amnesty International and the United Nations websites.

 

It is worth the few minutes to get the latest news about what's happening in the world around us.  Send your letters of support for the issues affecting the safety of every person. Learn and take action!